do you really need a wedding party?

disclaimer - ‘wedding party’ is the inclusive language used in place of ‘bridal party’ to encompass couples and attendants of any gender on either squad.

so, do you need a wedding party? the Short answer is No. the Longer answer is Also no — but let’s unpack it… More couples are choosing to skip having an “i do crew’ altogether, and it’s not because they don’t love their people. It’s because they want a simpler, more relaxed day.

The Reality

In theory you have your most favourite people around, bending over backwards to get you anything you need and hyping you up to have the best day of your life. but also, there’s a chaotic group chat, conflicting wants/needs/opinions, and a high likelihood that no one knows what to do or how to take charge so no one does anything. sometimes having more people around just brings more stress.

the cost

many couples feel obligated to cover a lot of the costs for their wedding party, including their outfits shoes, accessories, hair and make up. that adds up, and sometimes blows out your budget.

and there’s also the cost to the squad, with the need to plan and attend several pre-wedding events that all require cash for outfits, activities, travel and accommodation. this can result in stress on their end as well. not everyone will tell you if they’re stretched.

What Happens if you skip (or reduce) the wedding party?

less logistical issues, fewer expectations, reduced stress. not to mention there will be less formal photos needed on the day, which saves time and energy where you’ll crucially need it. In fact, your favourite people can still throw you a party and be with you when you’re getting ready. they can still give speeches at the reception and help out when you need, just without the matching outfits and fancy titles.

final thoughts

Some of the most relaxed, connected ceremonies I’ve delivered have been the ones without a wedding party. You don’t need a lineup to have a meaningful wedding, You just need the right people — however that looks for you.